31st Birthday Celebration Adventure!

Today around our house is the celebration of the worlds best husband (well, for me at least). The day started with Telesa and Q making breakfast. Then on to an uninterrupted 3 hours of White Sox baseball. The gifts have been opened and let me tell you that gift giving in this house is a combination of all things strange. I can only hope that any children that we become the parents of can appreciate how we do gift giving in this house. Matt was the happy recipient of a collector JFK plate (He is really into JFK stuff. I admit I don't get it), an antique mushroom cookie jar, and old postcards of Colorado. See I told you it was strange.

Matt is pretty much set on ignoring that a birthday is here. It is not because he is in denial about his age, but more that he does not really see the big deal for birthday celebrations. I have to say now that he will be in for a big surprise when we have children and how nuts birthday time can become.

I know that most wives think their husbands are the best. I can easily say that I am really blessed to have Matt for a husband and someday to be lucky enough to be a parent with him. Yes, he can be shy and awkward but he has a heart of gold. I am blessed to celebrate the birth of a man who stands right beside me and loves me unconditionally. It is not every day that you find someone who is willing to be your partner no matter what. As I think about how exciting it will be to get ready for a birthday for either of us with our children, it warms me to my very being to know that Matt will embrace the family we make and never look down on me for not giving birth to our family.

So with all of my long winded typing it comes down to HAPPY BIRTHDAY MATT!

Adventure in Waiting!

Let me start by telling you that every moment that takes place when you are adopting is not just a bunch of new and exciting moments. When you are waiting to be placed it can seem as though the minutes are dragging into days and the days are dragging into months. That is certainly an overstatement but there are times that it feels that way. We are constantly told by people to "enjoy" this time that we have before we have children. Here's the deal folks, Matt will be 31 tomorrow and I will be 30 in December, we have had a our fill of life without children.


The goal is not to be negative so now I get to find three things to tell everyone that shows how positive waiting for the phone call can be. 1. We get a few more days of sleeping in. Everyone knows that me (Brandy) loves to sleep at all times. 2. Matt gets to finish this baseball season with minimal interruption. 3. The library does not yet know us as the family that is ALWAYS there with their children.


See I did it!


As for an update on the boys I'm sad to say there really is not much of one. We know that we are still being considered and that the interviews should come sometime in the near-ish future. Matt is away for the next day and 1/2 with a business meeting and I will be right here waiting for that moment of phone call happiness. Until then more adventures to come.

Adventure no.1

Here we are in the middle of what seems like the longest and shortest adventure we have taken on so far. In just a few more days Matt will be celebrating is 31st birthday and it is one more birthday closer to us being parents. When we decided to adopt we had no idea what it would look like or how it would grow. There are a thousand and one decisions that have to be made in the start and that is including where your children will come from, what age they will be and sixteen thousand other parts.

Then as in the way of all things with this crazy adoption journey we get thrown a curve ball. On Monday we received an email from our amazing caseworker with a request from the SNAP worker. (At some point I will make a post that explains who all of these people are in the adoption world). There are two little boys 3 and 5 who have been diagnosed with Fragile X. The SNAP person asked for us and Ms. M (our caseworker) told us to educate ourselves on Fragile X before we decide to pursue.

One email turned the whole picture of "our children" into something utterly new and somewhat scary. Now we are asking the questions of what happens when the children get to this point or that point. In all honesty we had never heard of FX before this email and it lead to the worlds longest night of research about something total foreign to us both. Here is a link for anyone who is curious. Even if these little boys do not become our forever children, we are both more educated and realize that this is a disorder that needs much more exposure. The link is www.fragilex.org.

So at this point you may be wondering where in the world we go from here. That is part of the fun of the foster-adopt system. It speeds up and slows down with incredible speed. We will wait to hear back from the caseworker and then ask questions. After the questions comes an interview. (More on that crazy step to come.)

We may never actually get to parent these amazing little guys. But our hearts hope that we get the chance.